The King Maker Program: A pep talk for the parents of young adults

You Not Be Welcome When You Arrive: Your Recovery Destination

Rich Jones RN Episode 153

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Preparing Your Young Adult to Handle Hidden Resistance

One of the most overlooked but critical parts of preparing a young adult for lasting recovery—or any serious self-improvement—is helping them understand how people around them might react when they start to change.

We expect enemies and strangers to doubt them.
We don't always expect that some of the toughest resistance will come from people who love them.

Sometimes, when a young adult starts showing real growth—building better habits, setting clearer boundaries, standing stronger—people close to them feel unsettled. It’s not necessarily malice or cruelty. It’s fear. It’s sadness. It’s a sense of being left behind.
The important thing to prepare them for is this: Not every negative reaction they get is a sign they’re doing something wrong. More often, it's a sign they're doing something right.

When growth exposes old wounds in others, the easiest thing for a young adult to do is to shrink themselves back down to fit. To stop growing so fast. To apologize for wanting better.
But the truth is: they’re not responsible for making everyone else comfortable with their progress.

Here’s what you can do to prepare them:

1. Normalize It Early:
Let them know it’s normal if a friend or family member seems irritated, distant, or critical. Change creates waves.

"Sometimes when you start doing really well, it can make others feel things they don’t know how to say. That’s about them, not about you."

2. Frame It as a Positive Indicator:
Help them reframe emotional distance or minor pushback as evidence that they’re growing—and that growth is often contagious, even if it’s uncomfortable at first.

"You're not leaving people behind—you’re showing them it’s possible to move forward. Some will catch up. Some won’t. Either way, you’re lighting the way."

3. Teach Steadiness, Not War:
The goal isn’t to fight back or "prove" anything. It's to stay steady, kind, and focused. Model how to keep moving without resentment or bitterness.

"Stay open-hearted. Keep your boundaries clear. Let your actions speak louder than any argument."

4. Encourage Self-Validation:
Recovery and growth are already hard enough without waiting for applause. Teach them how to validate themselves internally so they aren’t dependent on outside approval to stay on course.

"You're doing this for you. Be proud of every small step, even if no one else notices yet."

Remember:
You can't clear every obstacle for them.
But you can plant truths in them now that will carry them through the tougher moments later.
Prepare them for the unexpected emotional storms—and they’ll learn to sail right through them.

Your love, your words, and your preparation can give your young adult the confidence to keep growing, even when it's hard.

Raising a young adult in today’s world is no small task — and sometimes, it feels like the stakes couldn’t be higher. The King Maker Podcast is your dose of encouragement, perspective, and practical wisdom. Each episode is a pep talk for the heart and the head — combining insight from Richard Jones, RN, creator of the King Maker Program

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